Folks tell stories in Facebook posts, blogs, books, talks, etc. to share their experiences in hopes that other can glean something helpful. Leaders tell stories. Jesus told stories, parables. Jesus said, however, some would have ears to hear and eyes to see and some wouldn’t. He also said that we should keep seeking and we would find. Keep knocking and the door would be open. That says to me that everything I see and hear might not be for me in that season. And if we keep seeking and continue in patient pursuit, the right things will come at the right time for us. When reading the thoughts of others, sometimes I’m motivated to action and frankly, other times I’m not. Sometimes even if I like the idea and think I may want to apply the new principle or practice, I don’t “want to” badly enough. Let me explain.
I remember a light bulb moment when I fully understood what I’ve come to call “want to”. I was a single mom dating a gentleman I had some interest in, but he didn’t seem to have any significant interest in my kid. That was a deal breaker for me and we were discussing the impending end to our budding relationship. He kept telling me, “I want to spend time with Phil.” I replied to him with examples of missed opportunities to do just that. The more examples I gave to illustrate my position that he did not want to, the more sad and frustrated he sounded. He sounded like he really wanted to, but I had no physical evidence to support the words or the sounds in his voice. Finally I broke through with, “You want to want to!!!”. Sounding defeated, he replied, “That’s what I’ve been trying to tell you”. Wow! Once he realized that, we started going on dates that included Phil to determine if we could progress. This man had never been married, didn’t have kids, and although he liked the idea of kids, he really didn’t “want to” have any. We discovered that forcing a heart-felt “want to” is not possible and the relationship ended. Although painful for all of us at the time, we ended up okay.
Now that we have a illustration of what I mean by “want to”, let me apply it to how I see the flood of stories we take in every day.
Meditative prayer is a big life support for me. There are a few folks in my life who would benefit greatly if they would learn this practice. However, something that comes like breathing to me is hard to them. They see the value, but they don’t have the real “want to” it takes to learn it and put it into practice. And, that’s okay.
Some folks naturally enjoy exercise, I don’t. However, although I have no heart desire to do most exercises, I do want to “want to” do Yoga! Like my peeps above, I believe I could do it if I applied myself and I believe there would be tremendous benefit to my mind and body. The discipline required to learn and practice yoga would take energy. I prioritize and spend my energy the same way I do money. Which means there are other things first on my priorities right now. Currently, I’m investing in establishing a habit of supplements and eating well for my body. And, that’s okay.
The first line in one of my favorite books is, “Life is difficult”. As we take in good ideas that are out there about how to settle our minds and strengthen our bodies, decide for yourself which things are meant for you and keep in mind that you don’t have to do everything at once! Although there is a lot to be said about ease and flow, our lives are not easy. Sometimes just sorting out priorities and finding the want to is difficult. Find the things that bring you en-courage-ment for the journey and know that your best is the best you can do. And, that’s okay.
Blankets of love and blessings,